Don’t let a bad phase ruin your life.. Life is precious.

After seeing life and facing lot of ups and downs till now, i feel that life is simply an examination to be cleared. You are either a “failure” or “success” in life at the end. Success not only in terms of your status, education, money, position but also in terms of you strongly coming out of your bad phases, dealing nitty gritty things with grace, your fighting spirit, your genuine relations maintained, memories, your impressions, your values & faith, your teachings and your nature.

Life is not a piece of cake, as we all know. As there are happy moments, there are bad moments too. Everybody enjoys happy moments. The problem is when bad phase hits our door, expected or unexpectedly. It hurts, we feel like crying and we feel so sad and depressed and angry. Its out of our control to manage this sadness and we feel helpless & worthless (sometimes). Attitude of revenge and hatred lingers in some cases. Many a times, our families are with us to console but still its difficult to find peace in it and we continue to suffer in our own shell. We suffer for months together and we see that we are suffering since years now. And you realise when you start seeing physical repercussions because of that.
Why we are unable to get over a bad phase in life. Why we are not letting it go? Is it worth it, breaking your head and health? Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we would have got over it, a lit’ sooner? How?

Its important to give appropriate importance to that sad moment. Its well and fine that you have cried, are sad. Why continue it for too long? Why give reasons to yourself saying you cant help it and not come out the shell. On the contrary, no one but you yourself can help yourself. You got to be a lit’ selfish here. To get over it you need to make consious effort to think different.

What if you think, You are making yourself suffer for some person who might be sleeping in peace at that time.

What if you think, OK i will leave it God! I forgive him/her for all the pains and sufferings i have gone through, because oh Almighty God you have forgiven me so many times and embraced me with love when i literally don’t deserve it. Its your attitude and moral values which comes to your rescue.

What if you think, There are so many unfortunate people around, life is so unstable anyways, why i make this sad moment of my life a big thing? Why not focus on something different and creative?

When will you be able to think like that? When you are well aware of whats going on in the world and gain spiritual maturity. I believe, it all depends on your thinking. A little change in thinking, would ease your ways to tackle such situations. If you do not handle your sad moments correctly, you obviously tend to get more of them and you will fill yourself with all the negatives, hatred and depressing thoughts, which will not let you live peacefully either.

Most of the times, your own people tend to make you suffer a lot, which kills you if you don’t have the right attitude. Right attitude is to assume that no person in this world is bad and accept as he or she is.

Forgiveness, tolerance, patience and power to let go are your assets while dealing with closed ones. No two individuals are same. They have different thought process, different views, different backgrounds and different attitudes. The challenge is to able to deal with everyone with compassion and grace for that matter even with your enemies. One should be quick to forgive and embrace, is a lesson to learn.

To conclude, its important to get out of bad phase “so called SHELL” at any cost or you will loose your life. I have seen lot of beautiful lives into depression.
This is small piece out of some of my experiences which might help some one who is in need…

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10 Comments

  1. I am indeed a person in need and I must say, THANK YOU! This is like a message from God to me right now. I lost my Dad two months ago and let depression and alcohol take over my life. I’m currently under medication for depression and am no longer drinking but after reading this message, I feel so relieved. (I never really had anyone to give me good advice like this) It’s like the answers to my prayers have been answered. I’ve been letting myself suffer for far too long. Today I realized that I’m only hurting my health by thinking negative thoughts. I will try by best from now on to think that life can only get better if I think positive and just keep telling myself that I’m strong and I can break any obstacle that gets in my way. Thanks again!

  2. hey thanks for ure million dollar words and statements………
    Someone who has lost themselvs in grief and sorrow and thinks tht life cant be worst then this,will cheer up and come out of the deepest storms of their lives….by reading your article…………

  3. thnx a lot…m gng thru a bad phase of life…my parents got separated in 2003, i had a break up in 2008, then again got into another relation last year and now because of my past hampering me and because me and my boyfriend are both short tempered, we are facing many problem…this was kind of a big big support for me…thanx a lot…hope to get more such support in future..!!

  4. Thankyou so much.. I will take a printout of this article and will read it again and again whenever i will feel low.

  5. Thank you so much for this comforting message. It made me realize I should enjoy life instead of worrying about nothing. <3 😀

  6. Yes Bad phase exists… For a very long period of my life I was carefree, happy, independent, enjoyed the best of life and then a time has come which took away everything from me physically, mentally,financially and psychological.. I have nothing left in life.A big Zero.. But only thing that save me is My family support, friends care and Belief on god that this phase will pass by and soon God will fill my life with Happiness all over again.Have trust..Stay at your peace of mind. Don’t get aggressive and restless.
    REMEMBER THINGS WILL FALL IN PLACE WHEN IT IS SUPPOSED TO…

  7. Yes Bad phase does exists… For a very long period of my life I was carefree, happy, independent, enjoyed the best of life and then a time has come which took away everything from me physically, mentally,financially and psychological.. I have nothing left in life.A big Zero.. But only thing that save me is My family support, friends care and Belief on god that this phase will pass by and soon God will fill my life with Happiness all over again.Have trust..Stay at your peace of mind. Don’t get aggressive and restless.
    REMEMBER THINGS WILL FALL IN PLACE WHEN IT IS SUPPOSED TO…

  8. This article is really nice n helpful. I have become so negative n depressed due to some events in my life. After reading this article i feel that its true n i will try to follow the advice given in this. Thanks. Keep sharing this kind of motivational stuff. It really help people.

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