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Life must have touched each one of us in many different ways. We cry, laugh, are sad , are happy, are angry … and the list continues. At the end of it, everyone of us wants to be happy.
So, What is to be happy? What will make you happy? What is happiness after all?
Before this question, lets see who is happy?
Humm.. Well, Poor people say we dont have money, if we get we will be happy. Similarly, rich people say we are not happy becuase we dont have love in family. People who are unmarried are always looking out for their better halves, on the contrary people who are married are not happy with their marriages. Some people say, happiness lies in nurturing small small pleasures in life, but what if you dont have ur basics in place (roti/kapada/makan)?
After long thoughts and experiences, here are some things which i can share with you.
* Money doesnt buy happiness. That doesnt mean, dont work and earn money, it should be the path to attain happiness and not the goal.
* Friends and Family doesnt buy happiness either. That ofcourse, doesnt mean, that dont be social or dont get married, it means that reduce your expectations from them, that they will make you happy always n consistently.
* “You are being watched always” by God. Remember this and you will not commit any mistakes which will bother you in long run.
* Spiritual maturity is necessary – any religion
* Happiness is in giving and not taking.
* Do everything for what you are responsible for in personal as well as professional life.
* Forgive & be patient.
Well ofcourse, i dont say these are the only things which will attain happiness. Just food for thought.
TRADITIONS
Recently i have realised the importance of traditions which are followed from long years. Now i know, people are not foolish to follow them. Well, by the word “tradition”, i not only mean, the religious rituals, but also different roles played by an individual (i.e. daughter, son, brother, sister, wife, husband, friend, etc. etc). Responsibilites of every role is defined in our great holy scriptures & are part of our traditions. Do we know them? Even if we know them, do we follow them? We only come to know when we really think hard, self introspect and have a desire to find out what is right & correct too.
Its obvious, if we follow traditions, we are least expected of failures, because its well tested by thousand of people. There is a damn good reason of every tradition , for every pattern, i feel.
Its a mere “trend” to do different things without any fear factor, which in most of the cases causes lot of chaos emotionally, physically and mentally. Y not do same things, with a difference?
STUBBORNNESS
This quality deters you from giving right importance to right thing at right time. You are not flexible enough to understand the need of the moment and are into your own rigid thinking, which leads nowhere. We fail to see things which we should have due to our stubbornness. If got rid of this kinda behaviour , its in your self interest.
POWER OF PRAYERS
Can you control how other person behaves with you? You can only hope that he or she will behave good to you. But you can decide to be good to others always and forever and deal with the people who behave bad with you in a hope that they will behave good with you some day. I pray for such people who deliberately or not, behave bad with me and to my surprise, it works.
Praying relieves you and you hand over the matter to God.
EXPECTATIONS
Expectations reduces joy of life. Expect less from people. But if some one is expecting from you, don’t fall short in that. Go beyond that persons expectations and see the difference without further expectations, ofcourse! It helps in all relations and acts as a tonic.
Well, there are many lit things which we understand, learn and move ahead. Its not only important to learn new things, talk to new people but also its very important to grow/evolve in as good human being, become more patient, compassionate and kind towards people around us.
After seeing life and facing lot of ups and downs till now, i feel that life is simply an examination to be cleared. You are either a “failure” or “success” in life at the end. Success not only in terms of your status, education, money, position but also in terms of you strongly coming out of your bad phases, dealing nitty gritty things with grace, your fighting spirit, your genuine relations maintained, memories, your impressions, your values & faith, your teachings and your nature.
Life is not a piece of cake, as we all know. As there are happy moments, there are bad moments too. Everybody enjoys happy moments. The problem is when bad phase hits our door, expected or unexpectedly. It hurts, we feel like crying and we feel so sad and depressed and angry. Its out of our control to manage this sadness and we feel helpless & worthless (sometimes). Attitude of revenge and hatred lingers in some cases. Many a times, our families are with us to console but still its difficult to find peace in it and we continue to suffer in our own shell. We suffer for months together and we see that we are suffering since years now. And you realise when you start seeing physical repercussions because of that.
Why we are unable to get over a bad phase in life. Why we are not letting it go? Is it worth it, breaking your head and health? Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we would have got over it, a lit’ sooner? How?
Its important to give appropriate importance to that sad moment. Its well and fine that you have cried, are sad. Why continue it for too long? Why give reasons to yourself saying you cant help it and not come out the shell. On the contrary, no one but you yourself can help yourself. You got to be a lit’ selfish here. To get over it you need to make consious effort to think different.
What if you think, You are making yourself suffer for some person who might be sleeping in peace at that time.
What if you think, OK i will leave it God! I forgive him/her for all the pains and sufferings i have gone through, because oh Almighty God you have forgiven me so many times and embraced me with love when i literally don’t deserve it. Its your attitude and moral values which comes to your rescue.
What if you think, There are so many unfortunate people around, life is so unstable anyways, why i make this sad moment of my life a big thing? Why not focus on something different and creative?
When will you be able to think like that? When you are well aware of whats going on in the world and gain spiritual maturity. I believe, it all depends on your thinking. A little change in thinking, would ease your ways to tackle such situations. If you do not handle your sad moments correctly, you obviously tend to get more of them and you will fill yourself with all the negatives, hatred and depressing thoughts, which will not let you live peacefully either.
Most of the times, your own people tend to make you suffer a lot, which kills you if you don’t have the right attitude. Right attitude is to assume that no person in this world is bad and accept as he or she is.
Forgiveness, tolerance, patience and power to let go are your assets while dealing with closed ones. No two individuals are same. They have different thought process, different views, different backgrounds and different attitudes. The challenge is to able to deal with everyone with compassion and grace for that matter even with your enemies. One should be quick to forgive and embrace, is a lesson to learn.
To conclude, its important to get out of bad phase “so called SHELL” at any cost or you will loose your life. I have seen lot of beautiful lives into depression.
This is small piece out of some of my experiences which might help some one who is in need…
You wish to rain today and it rains!! Itsn’t it a miracle? In ancient times, our great Yogi’s use to do these unnatural miracles, accumulate lot of energy with their mediations and mantras. Some people are doing it even today. I got to hear lot of true stories from some trustworthy resources and then i started getting questions like : if you listen to nature, does nature listen you? Does nature respond to you in such fantastic manner? If thats so, cant we stop Tsunami’s and natural disasters? Why nature is so cruel, because we are cruel towards nature?
I could think of answers to some questions, but still there are some unanswered questions. I certainly believe that there are some energies acting on us. Positive energies & Negative energies. If you can deal with these energies trying to maximize the postive forces and minimize negative ones, i think that is what is called luck/coincidence/miracle may be.
But what is positive energy? How to accumulate it? What to avoid negative forces to act on us? Can a layman do this? Well, its indeed something different, i would say supernatural.
I would also say, energies are accumulated for us every day, from our day to day activities. There are rays which are falling on us and vibrations which acts on us every day. Say for example, you had a fight with boss, you start hating him, you are not happy with things at home, traffic jams, in all these situations, you will irritated and frustrated, your negative energies are increased. Nevertheless, if you meditate, laugh , try maintaining your cool and forgive others and live and let live, your positive energies are increased. Simply to put it in an equation, greater the positive energies you have, easier for you to live life with peace and joy.
As much as moral values help, we also need physical ways to generated positive energy into our body. We can experience the viberations acting on us when we meditate or do rigourous breathing. After a while we are revitalized and feel rejuvinated. Why? We have generated energy for ourself by doing this. This energy is ofcourse positive.
Yeah, its difficult to accumulate positive energies and everybody cannot do that, and thats why everybody are not saints  But if we just understand and try this simple principle of life, instead of entangling into worldly bits and pieces, we will be able to talk to nature or use that energy for eternal peace and happiness.
Reaching eternity while living on this planet earth???? Sounds weird right? Hold on and tighten your seat belt we will soon disclose all howz and whenz and whatz…
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